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I didn’t know my loved one was using drugs or alcohol 

Sometimes friends or relatives do not know before a death that their loved one was using drugs, or using alcohol to a dangerous level.

If this happens the shock and trauma of an unexpected death is combined with the shock of finding out about an addiction or unknown drug or alcohol use.

You will be faced with many questions.

Feelings of guilt and regret are very common.

Double trauma

A sudden death is always traumatic.

If you did not know your friend or family member was using drugs or alcohol the death will come as a terrible shock, and you will also have to cope with the shock of finding out about an addiction or unknown drug or alcohol use.

The early days after a traumatic death are very difficult - see: what you might be experiencing.

When you are unprepared for a death it takes a long time to take in what has happened.

You may need to spend a lot of time talking it through – try and find one or two trusted friends or relatives to talk to.