It is important to take care of yourself after a bereavement. It will probably be helpful to talk to someone about the person who has died, your memories of them and relationship with them. Who you decide to talk to is up to you. You may want to talk to friends, family, a spiritual or faith advisor, your GP or a professional organisation specialising in bereavement. It can be difficult to talk to friends and family, especially if you don’t feel they understand what it is you’re going through, but they can be a crucial source of support and you should talk to them if you feel able.

Do…..

• Talk to other people about the person who has died, about your memories and your feelings.
• Look after yourself. Eat properly and try to get enough rest (even if you can’t sleep).
• Give yourself time and permission to grieve.
• Seek help and support if you feel you need it.
• Tell people what you need.

Don’t….

• Isolate yourself.
• Keep your emotions bottled up.
• Think you are weak for needing help.
• Feel guilty if you are struggling to cope.
• Turn to drugs or alcohol – the relief will only be temporary.

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